Medina93

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Looking for a lifelong companion :)

Medina93
Medina93
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My Sect
Sunni
Religiousness
Religious
My Profession
Prefer not to say
Marital Status
Never married
County/State
West Midlands
Country
United Kingdom
Registration Reason
I'm registering to find myself a partner

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A Little Bit About Me
Assalaamu’alaikum,

I’ve updated this profile as of April 2023 as my old profile wasn’t reflecting the current Me. I don’t quite know how to go about this, it’s pretty tough trying to fit a 29 year olds life within a couple of paragraphs but I hope what I have written will give you some snippets of who I am –just enough for you to perhaps want to enquire further.

I’ve been on a bit of a journey with trying to figure out where I am going in life and what I want. I still go through these phases where I’m trying to figure this out. I know what my purpose in life is and I know what my duty is to my Creator and to my parents, however figuring out my place in society has been the trickier part.

I’d say I’m pretty self aware and have a lot of things I would like to work on. I’m a bit of a deep and reflective kind of person and am quite in tune with my own emotions, so I often find myself doing things because it 'felt' like the right thing to do. In some ways I would say I can experience emotions intensely and can be very sensitive to my environment/ external stimuli so I really dislike crowded, noisy, loud, fast paced, over-stimulating places/people. I really value my downtime as it allows me to recharge and process everything in my own time.

Some words I would use to describe myself are: warm, soft hearted, caring and understanding. I am very shy at first but can be quite chatty once I am more comfortable and talking about something that I’m passionate about. I am a very homely kind of person and enjoy spending time with my family whether that’s going out with them or baking with the nephews and nieces. I do sometimes like to go the extra mile to make homemade things for special occasions such as decorations or baked goods to give as gifts on Eid, I used to absolutely love crafting things when I was younger (out of paper I mean.. not evil schemes :/ )

I’m quite inquisitive about people and their behaviors and this helps me to have Husn adh-dhan (a good opinion) of others as oftentimes I just feel like peoples misbehaviors stem from a place of pain, fear and not having basic needs met and really I think that requires the receiver to just be curious and have some compassion and understanding. Here I go again… but I really do dislike it when people speak badly of others especially if they are being misunderstood. Character is very important to me and the way a person deals with another of Allah SWT's creation I think says a lot about a person.

I think I’m pretty traditional when it comes to my outlook on life, especially in regards to gender roles. I am quite introverted and enjoy spending time at home so I think I would be more suited to looking after the home and children. This might be a tad bit exaggerated but I think I’d die if I had to go out there and work.. It’s pretty cut throat out there and I feel the high pressure of todays work environment is not suited for women. Having said that I don’t look down on women wanting to work, it is a great skill set and we do need women working in certain fields. I do appreciate that Allah has no limit in His creativity with how He has created us all so differently. I just wish things could be better catered for women wanting to work.

What do I enjoy? Good question and I guess there is still a lot for me to explore in life. I haven’t ventured out a lot (I’m secretly waiting for a special someone to take me out places). But so far I’d say I really value spending quality time with people, having heart to heart conversations on a road trip, on the train or in front of a warm fire at home (I totally miss our fireplace). I do like spontaneous adventures but I’m not the type to venture out on my own, I feel like the best part of the adventure is actually the company. I generally enjoy the quieter places so when I go out or travelling I do try and look for the more secluded spots rather than overcrowded touristy spots. I do enjoy marveling at the night sky and it is something that bring me closer to my Rabb and I’d really like the opportunity to visit a dark sky area one day inshaAllah –hope you’re making notes…

In the past I have dabbled into traditional arts and studied Arabic language to a basic level. I don’t like feeling pressured into learning and prefer doing things at my own pace and this can be a problem for me with most institutes that have a rigid way of teaching. I have struggled with burn out in the past so I am more cautious not to pressure myself into learning too much too quickly. Sometimes I feel so touched by the most simplest of things and I feel like there is a lesson to be learnt even in the simplest of places. I’ve always wanted to spend time in the company of a spiritual teacher, I feel like spending time in righteous company has great benefit. Witnessing righteousness with ones heart feels like the deepest form of learning.

These days any verse about marriage brings me to tears but there are two special verses that really stir a lot of emotion in me (I haven’t included the full verses). The first one:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا

“And one of His signs is that He has created for you, spouses from amongst yourselves so that you might take comfort in them” (30.21).

What I really like about this verse is the use of the word sukun because it doesn’t just mean comfort but beyond that it means that you find such comfort within that person that they are like a place of peaceful dwelling. So when this Dunya tires you out and you feel beaten, broken down and just want to go home and unwind and take all that weight off your shoulders, you just want to come home to be with your spouse. Isn’t that so beautiful? I’m definitely big on touch and I know how comforting it can feel to be held and embraced by a loved one.

As for the second verse which I also love dearly, you’re going to have to message me to find out. I hope this is enough for now to give you a bit of an idea of who I am.


*Please note* I'm only looking to consider British citizens only. However am very open to relocating.

All the best with your searches and may Allah SWT grant us all Sabr in these testing times :)

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What I Am Looking For
I want to keep this section short because I would like to keep an open heart towards whoever Allah sends my way. But just some points I’d like to throw in to give some ideas about what kind of things I think would be beneficial from a spouse.

I’d like to find someone who’s presence allows me to feel safe enough to open up. Marriage is such a unique relationship and there are certain needs that only a spouse can fulfil. As time goes on I am becoming more aware of these growing needs. I have yearned for companionship –just knowing at the end of the day you have someone to share your joys and sorrows with.

I’d like a spouse who is in touch with themselves and has a certain level of self awareness. Someone, who has the capacity to hold space for emotions. Someone, who has an open heart and open mind towards people and their differences.

I am also looking for someone who knows what their purpose in life is and has confidence in themselves and their vision in life, so I can be a supporting backbone to them. Traditional gender roles dictate that men are leaders and women are supporters and I support this line of thought whole heartedly.

I have been watching Pakistani dramas recently and as you can imagine they are centred on the emotion of love. My Urdu isn’t the strongest but when a female character speaks of her spouse as her Muhafez it does stir a lot of emotion in me. This word entails a greater meaning of someone who cares for, takes responsibility and protects his woman. I am looking for my Muhafez.

I look forward to being able to have a deeply intimate conversation with my new best friend :)

Oh and if your'e the one, I'm keeping you both in this world and in the hereafter! (Ameen) :))

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Personal Information
My Citizenship
British
Country of Origin
United Kingdom
Willing to Relocate?
Internationally
I am Looking to Marry
As soon as possible
My Income
Prefer not to say
Marital Status
Never married
Would I like to have Children?
Yes
Do I have children?
No
My Living Arrangements?
I Live With Family
Country
United Kingdom
County/State
West Midlands
Distance
unknown
Appearance
My Height
1.73m (5' 8")
My Build
Large
My Hair Colour
Black
Colour of My Eyes
Brown
Do I Smoke?
No
Do I Have Any Disabilities?
No
Education
My Education Level
College
Subject I Studied
IT
Language
My First Language
English
My Second Language
Mirpuri
Work
My Profession
Prefer not to say
My Job Title
None
Religion
Religiousness
Religious
My Sect
Sunni
Hijab/Niqab
Yes Hijab
Beard
Prefer not to say
Are You a Revert?
No
Do You Keep Halal?
I Always Keep Halal
Do You Perform Salaah?
Always